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Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/15/2013

Hello and welcome to the hug corner uwu

This is a place for you to vent about bad things that might've happened, and get love and support from everyone else. And hugs! Lots and lots of hugs. Always hugs.

-hugs-

Please remember to keep your venting within the rules, as rules apply even here!

And no arguments, even if you are upset or disagree with someone's vent.

Just hugs. -hugs- [nblush]

In addition, if you need help, here are some resources you can check out! Please do take the time to look, remember you are worth it! :)

Kid's Helpline Australia
Depression Help Lines - a useful list of helplines around the world!
IMalive - an online suicide helpline chatroom for those who may be afraid to call a hotline.

In addition to these resources, remember that while we are here to help and we love you, we can only do so much over the internet! If you need help, please call a hotline or tell a trusted parent, guardian, teacher, therapist, counselor, or other trusted adult. Please do remember to take care of yourself! You're worth it!




 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/15/2013

I literally just found out a friend of mine from years ago died a minute ago. ;_;
 
lisha777

lisha777
Australia  


  7/15/2013

Feddlefew! -HUGS- I'm sorry! :(

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. Gandalf the Grey
 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013

oh, my :( I saw your Bibble. please accept all my hugs! [heart]



 
Trell
Wee Scrivener

Trell
Canada  

 visit Trell's website: TrellyOllyOxenFree
  7/16/2013

Oh my gosh... :'( I am so sorry luv... *hugs*

Trell
"Holy crap in a casket!"

 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

Thank you.

Details are supposed to be in the local newspaper tomorrow, which is... ominous.

 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013

-AGGRESSIVE HUGGING-

you need hugs!!




 
Solariana

Solariana
United States  


  7/16/2013

Jesus... [ncrying]
*gives a soft warm hug*


Drawing today!
 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

*Slowly being squished by hugs.*

I think he had some kind of untreated mental illness, since the last I'd heard about him was that he refused to leave his room most of the time or bathe. My mom is all worried about me now because I was going through a self-isolation thing for awhile because I was embarrassed I had to withdraw from college because of chronic illness and depression.


 
Solariana

Solariana
United States  


  7/16/2013

Oh honey that kind of stuff is out of your control. I mean, you don't have a say in the matter when you become not well, be it mentally or physically. And honestly, that kind of stuff interferes with schoolwork cause you can't focus or get motivated. I know that feeling, I had to withdraw from school for treatment for most of a year of middle school and again in high school because of severe depression. I've since come out of it, but back then I was doing really bad and there was nothing I could have done to prevent it from happening. I know it's an embarrassing feeling to have it interrupt your work, especially when it's involving something as expected of you as college, but really, it's of no fault of your own. You know?

Drawing today!
 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

Yeah, I know about the whole "situation completely out of my control thing." Having both of my ovaries almost literally explode freshman year of college didn't help. I'm planing on going to my community college for a semester and then transferring to a four-year college within driving distance of me.

With him dead I have no friends in the area. Okay, I have an alleged "Friend", but I don't have the energy to deal with an emotional vampire right now so I've been avoiding them.

 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  7/16/2013

Oof. Emotional vampires can be like poison. :C Take care of yourself, Feddlefew, we all care about you. :D

Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
Solariana

Solariana
United States  


  7/16/2013

Yikes. :/ Yeah those kind of people are hard to deal with.
Good luck to you, feddlefew.


Drawing today!
 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

I can't sleep. I am crying and have this nagging feeling that I'm being selfish because I can't stop thinking about how similar my situation was two months ago to my friend's.
 
Laura
Tea Queen

Laura
United Kingdom  
Administrator


 visit Laura's website: CC Chat
  7/16/2013  1

You're not being at all selfish, Feddlefew. :( It's perfectly normal to have all these different thoughts and feelings when you go through a loss, so don't be ashamed, or feel guilty, about indulging yourself with a good, long cry. We're all here for you too.
 
geckogirl191

geckogirl191
Belgium  


  7/16/2013

My moral and motivation has reached a low point today. I feel like everybody i haven't even met in person is out to get me. I keep thinking that all the good things they did are a façade, just so they can stab me in the back later, because they like to see somebody burn. Sometimes, i wished everybody was dead. Other times, i wished I was dead. I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, but i know that if i do that, everybody will think i'm a freaking nutcase, just like everybody else i know already does.
 
C-Rex
Lollipop Lord

C-Rex
United Kingdom  

 visit C-Rex's website: The Norn Nebula
  7/16/2013

That sounds horrible geckogirl191, -hugs-. I've sometimes felt a bit like that too, but you must do whatever it takes to keep strong. :(

⋆ The Norn Nebula ⋆

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Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

Depending on how you feel about them and financial / geographical situation, you may want to see a counselor, Geckogirl. Even if it's just a one time thing, it's always good to have someone to vent to who can give you sound advice and isn't going to tell anyone else what you said.
 
geckogirl191

geckogirl191
Belgium  


  7/16/2013

I'm kind of regretting what i just posted. Sure, i still feel bitter, but upon retrospection, i feel that whatever i said was just my adrenaline and lack of patience talking. In reality, i was venting about something extremely stupid and pointless (if you don't believe me, here's three words: unreliable online vendor) and overreacting all the way.
You can stop the hugging now. I was being stupid, and i shouldn't be hugged for being stupid.

 
NimhsLab

NimhsLab
United States  


  7/16/2013

*hugs despite struggling* Feelings of the moment are still feelings! And now you think you're being stupid, which deserves further hugs.

I'm really scared about the vaccination. my appointment is at one o'clock and it's nearly eleven where I am. Virtual hugs would really help.


[chirping and clicking] Clicks for a winter god! >
 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013  1

Oh my, I missed a bit when I went to bed! Hugs for everyone!!

geckogirl, you might've only been feeling that in the moment, but it's still a feeling! I have feelings like that quite often! You weren't being stupid, it's okay!

Nimhs, I'm sure you can make it through! I know it's real scary, but you're a strong person and I have faith in you! You can do it!




 
Spykkie

Spykkie
Canada  


  7/16/2013

I'm so sorry feddlefew...
I know what it's like to have all your friends move away and be left with no 'real' offline friend, but at least you have this community and all the nice people here to talk to. :) I don't know if you'd consider me a good friend, but I'm sure everyone here would be glad to be your friend and talk to you as often as possible!

I'm glad you're planning to go back to school, those things that happened really sound like a titan's trial... The important part is that you survived. *hug* You're a nice person, so I'm sure you'll make new friends once start going to school again. vuv


My Stream: Game Stream

 
Spykkie

Spykkie
Canada  


  7/16/2013  1

geckogirl191, it sounds like you got trapped in an emotional loop. It can happen sometimes... :/

The problem is that the more we think about something bad, the worst we feel; but 'worst' doesn't necessarily mean 'sad'. It can mean angry, or paranoid, or any other emotion.

Focusing on bad things is never a good idea. If you feel yourself getting trapped in a bad emotional loop, try to stop and take a moment to breath and think of something else entirely. It'll derail that emotion and give you a chance to calm down.

A good way to break from a bad situation is to go to the bathroom. It's the one place you can ask people not to follow/talk to you.

I know it might sound stupid or over simplistic, but if you take yourself out of the situation, you're much more likely to calm down. Also, using the bathroom removes unnecessary stress from your body. Sometimes we don't need to go bad enough to actually feel it, but going anyway really does help, especially if you think of nothing while you take that time.

Feel better *hug*


My Stream: Game Stream

 
Feddlefew

Feddlefew
United States  


  7/16/2013

@Geckogirl- Everybody gets really frustrated sometimes. And an unreliable online vendor is a perfectly good reason to get angry. I find taking long naps and crafts soothing when I'm upset, and my parents both start cleaning when they get mad. It's better you vent here than at someone else.

@Nihm Vacinations aren't bad! They just sting a little and at worst make your arm really sore for a few days.
....Unless its the rabies vaccine you get when you've been infected. But that's the only one that's bad, and it's better than dying of rabies! 8^D



 
geckogirl191

geckogirl191
Belgium  


  7/16/2013

To NihmsLab
Whenever i'm at a physician undergoing something that might be scary at first (like going to the dentist to have your calculus removed), all i do is close my eyes and count to a random number multiple times in my head. By concentrating on counting, you can distract yourself from the fear easily. Trust me, it works. ;)

 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  7/16/2013  1

Hey, everyone! This is just a friendly reminder that if you need to seek help, particularly if you're experiencing severe depression or thoughts of self-harm, please do so from a trusted adult like a parent, counselor, therapist or other professional. We all sympathize and understand that CCaves is a safe haven but there are limits to what you should post since this is still a site that is targeted towards and has members under and around age 13. There are also limits to what the members and moderation team are able to do for you so please do the best you can to take care of yourself by seeking professional aid.

~The Moderation Team

Addendum:
Here are some organizations that are willing and able to help.
Kid's Helpline Australia
Depression Help Lines Provides numbers for helplines all over the world.


Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013  1

Also, if you're feeling suicidal but may be too scared to call a hotline, IMalive is a great resource. It's like a hotline, but instead you chat with volunteers who are specially trained in crisis intervention. It's safe and free. :)



 
Malkin

Malkin
Australia  
Manager


 visit Malkin's website: Malkin's page at CWiki
  7/16/2013

Don't discount your local helplines, though - a lot of them also offer web services, and sometimes a local knowledge can help them to help you more efficiently. :)

My TCR Norns
 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013

Yes, definitely!



 
Issy

Issy
United States  


  7/16/2013

As of late, a certain someone has not contacted me for a little more than 2 months. [nsad]

After being with someone for almost two years, and talking to them everyday, a sudden absence is confusing especially since we were in the middle of a conversation...

The first day of no reply, I thought, "Oh it's alright he's just busy, he'll reply tomorrow." The second day of no reply I thought, "Hmm, he must be super busy, maybe tomorrow..." The third day, "I hope he's alright" The fourth day, "Did I do something?" The fifth day, "What is going on.." and so on...

What started as the simple hope of "Oh it's totally fine he's just busy! He will reply tomorrow!" slowly dwindled away until there was nothing remaining, and I am left here to try and figure out what happened, for two months. I don't know if it's something I did, if he got his phone taken away, if this is his Einstein idea of trying to break up with me painlessly, if somehow he fell off the face of the planet and died-- I don't know anything!



Don't ever do this to someone. [ncrying]

Sorry for the long post... it didn't seem so big until I was done typing. :(

Okay, I'm done now. [nblank] *tiptoes away and makes dinner*


~Issy [ngeek]
 
kezune
Air Guitarist

kezune
United States  

 visit kezune's website: Designer Genes
  7/16/2013

That's always rough. :C I have a friend who I used to hang out with every day who hasn't contacted me since we graduated highschool. In '07.

If he can't make the time to contact you, then I wouldn't worry about him. Still, it might be worth it to e-mail him or shoot him another text to make sure everything's alright.


Designer Genes || Updates Monday through Saturday
Personal Philosophy || "It never hurt anybody to have
thick skin, a strong back and a level head."

 
Pixis

Pixis
United States  

 visit Pixis's website: Pappus Café
  7/16/2013

oh dear... :( sounds like you need a hug! -hugs-

I know how you feel... one of my old friends came to contact me, and he told me about himself and how he'd changed since we'd last seen each other... and then he never came back online again. [nblank]




 
Issy

Issy
United States  


  7/16/2013

I've sent a total of about 7 texts... so... I'm not sure it would even matter at this point. :/

Edit: Thanks for the hugs c:


But yeah, we were dating for almost 2 years, then *poof*

I think that set in slight depression. Nothing really makes me happy anymore, like it should. I get bored with everything, even games. Instead, I write up many different versions of the text that would set in stone what I think he's doing, but I never send them... instead I stare at the phone, waiting for the reply that never comes... regardless if he does reply, I don't plan on continuing things as they were before, because this is just simply uncalled for...

Funny how wrong you can be about a person.


~Issy [ngeek]
 
NimhsLab

NimhsLab
United States  


  7/16/2013

*Huggles* *sighs* *sobs with you* :(

I can sort-of relate to this. I've been an acquaintance of this one guy for 2-3 years now, and I still don't know if he likes me, or if I'm delusional and a terrible person for annoying him for so long. I've tried getting over him. There have been times where I've thought "I'm free! I can finally move on!" only to mentally come crawling back to him a week later. I know he liked me at some point, but I don't know if he still feels any-thing other than pity for me. I know he was going through rough times last time we spoke, but at that moment I had "Will we, Won't we" blinders on and ended up just spewing mushy romantic babble at him instead of actually being there for him so now I'm worried I've screwed up everything permanently. It wasn't a confession, he already knew how I felt before then.


[chirping and clicking] Clicks for a winter god! >
 
Spykkie

Spykkie
Canada  


  7/16/2013  1

@Isis: You should try to contact him however you can, it is reasonable to try to contact your friend when you're worried about him. So, if you can send him a email, do so. If you can send him a note on a website you both use, do so. If you can call and leave a message, do so.

Once you've tried everything you can to reach him, you can't feel bad for "not trying hard enough". Don't be casual about it, tell him right out that you're worried about him. Some people can't guess those kind of things even when months have gone by. If he lost his phone/laptop/internet access, he'll get your message(s) and he'll surely contact you once he gets the chance! Otherwise, he's just being a donkey's bottom, and you're better off with out him... :/

I do hope he just lost his phone though. *hug*


My Stream: Game Stream

 
Issy

Issy
United States  


  7/16/2013

Thanks guys, but I'm not sure if I even want to try to contact him anymore. I'll send another text, maybe I'll try calling... but I'm not expecting too much. :c

We hung out all the time, played video games together, watched TV shows together, we've gone to two homecomings together, but we didn't talk too much during finals, on account of studying and such.

The last day of school he smiled and waved and said goodbye, (he was going out to lunch with friends) and that's the last I've seen of him.

-hugs everyone- u.u


~Issy [ngeek]
 

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